I read this NYTimes article today about happiness and materialism and it put a few things in perspective for me. The article suggests that the more we clamor for fame and fortune, the unhappier we are, whereas the more we set our goals around relationships, the happier we are.
The moral – love people and use things, not the reverse.
This theory isn’t rocket science, but don’t we need that constant reminder? It makes me think of a friend who has faced professional challenges in the last year, but as a result, has received so much support from friends and family that they’ve been humbled to the point of tears (several times). It’s such a beautiful thing to see.
It’s so easy to get distracted and dragged down with the ups and downs of money and career, but the real wake up call typically happens when it starts to impact our health and we become truly aware of our own mortality. It’s in these moment that we’re going to think about the love in our lives and not sit back and think about all the amazing toys we have or have not accumulated.
I’m not suggesting money is bad – quite the opposite as it certainly makes life easier, but for all it’s benefits it can also be isolating. The more you have, the more you stand to lose. The more you have, the more people expect of you – the list goes on.
As I get older and experience more in life, the more I value love, relationships and consistent sense of wellness. Sure, having money supports all those things and a cute pair of shoes can go a long way to brightening this girl’s day, but more so I’m finding little experiences bring me even more joy, like…
- a longer than 2 minute hug from my husband
- quick coffee dates with a dear friend
- snuggles with my dogs
- 10 minutes of non-woo-meditation
- hot showers
- long walks on a trail by my house (amazingly, this makes me giddy)
- Real Housewives of anywhere
- a clean house
- a sweet ProCakes product review from a blogger (they are all so freakin awesome)
- eating dinner alfresco
- summer weather (and living a mile from the beach.… even tho I rarely go)
- Going to work in my pajamas
- The love and support of all my amazing friends
These are the little things in life that truly make me happy. And as I write them out, I feel like the richest girl in the world.
Happy Friday and have an awesome weekend!!