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So about that Facebook cleanse…
As you know, I intentionally avoided Facebook as I find it brings me down. I vowed to take a whole seven days off, and even deleted the app from my phone (so brave), but I admit I did have a few FOMO moments throughout the week and broke down to take a peek here and there.
I was met with hoards of media updates about Donald Trump’s latest no-so-brilliant idea to just not let the entire Muslim population into the country. His head is a hard visual from a distant view, but the close ups of those duck lips flapping in the wind…. I just can’t.
But I digress.
Other than my minor slip-ups, I’ve been REALLY good about not engaging in mindless Facebook trolling. The interesting part is that I still craved connection with my friends, so I was forced to find less lazy ways of talking to them. I actually picked up the phone and called people to say hi – something I rarely do anymore.
I realized that Facebook as made me socially lazy with my close friends and that I didn’t miss what my extended connections had to say at all.
The other big upside from my Facebook detox was having a lot more time on my hands. I’m embarrassed to admit how much time I’d spend scrolling and trolling, not to mention clicking off to read the latest listicle on the top 7 ways to be more productive (which ironically should start with not reading listicles).
I had time and headspace to think, read and, well… to troll Instagram. Okay, I never said I was taking a break from all social media.
Anyway, long and rambling story short(er), the time away from Facebook opened my eyes to some not-so-impressive behaviors I’ve acquired. I’ve let Facebook become my default social outlet (very bad). I’ve been really unconscious about the crappy news and opinions I expose myself to (read: Donald Trump and anyone who agrees with him), and I’ve wasted a good chunk of my life, meandering through a feed of noise and bullshit.
Facebook is not all bad. I mean, it’s the best thing on earth when it’s your birthday, and you’re getting a flood of well wishes from your 3rd-grade classmates who you haven’t seen in 30 years. It’s also great for remembering your friends and family’s birthdays, seeing pictures of their travel, celebrations, and new home purchases.
In short, it’s good for getting a richer, deeper more visual view into the lives of people you actually give a shit about.
It’s not good for much else.
So in light of this, I’ve been able to keep my Facebook visits to once a day. When I do head to the site, I take a conscious view of what I’m looking at. I’m friends with far too many people I don’t know or don’t care about. I’m following way too many BRAVO shows and news media outlets that my feed is always riddled with noise and the latest commentary on whether or not Brooks Ayers really has cancer or not (um, who cares?).
It’s so easy to like and follow so many useless feeds that add zero value to my existence.
So I’m on a purge and delete mission to whittle down my feed to only the people that truly matter. To follow only the people who have a positive impact on me, and who’s opinions I truly respect (these are few).
I’m looking to make Facebook the fun and addictive experience it was back in 2009.
Are you with me?