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How to deal with the fear in your mind and get around the perceived judgement of others in order to do the things you really want to do in this life.
I listening to a podcast about Aim True, Kathryn Budig’s new book, I had a profound takeaway – you’ve got to develop the tools you need to live your life the way you want to.
I’m referring to the work you do in the world AND the work you do on yourself. If you’re living in fear, then are you living the way you want to? That’s not meant to add more pressure (like OMG, now I have to live bravely and authentically on top of just surviving), but it is meant to give you pause to think about what’s true for you.
I bring this up because it’s a big deal in my life right now. I’m doing a lot of new (good) things that I’m afraid I’ll be judged about. That’s crazy, because it’s about the work I want to do in this world. It’s positive for others, it’s positive for me, and it’s also revenue generating, so there’s nothing wrong with it, and yet I fear judgement from the people around me. The ones who know me. How crazy is that?
This is all about not giving myself permission to thrive in the direction I want to go, and it’s crazy because you know what? That judgement of others won’t pay my mortgage. I can’t take it to the bank and it’s not even going to benefit my health (but it can definitely damage it). So why am I spending SO much energy on it? Especially when I don’t have to avoid it and I don’t have to fight it. I can embrace it. I can say – yes, I know you’re out there judgement, and that’s okay. Please just have a seat and let me get on with this very important thing I have to do. I’ll circle back when I’m 90 and see if it’s still important that I address your presence.
As I write this, I can see how once again, I am my own worst enemy. But self-awareness is a powerful thing and I’m also ready to put the judgement of others in its proper place – in that dark corner of my mind that I’ll address when I’m 90 (if I make it that long).
Am I alone in this self-imposed fear of judgement? Please tell me I’m not….