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If you’re feeling out of control in your life, there are very specific things you can do to get out of that sense of quicksand. These steps are powerful, tactical and completely within the realm of doability. Read on!
Have you ever stopped to consider that out of all the bajillion things that happen to you throughout the course of your life, on a day to day basis, you only have full control over a handful of them?
No, really. Think about it.
Everything, good or bad, from a cancer diagnosis to meeting the love of your life, is not 100% in your control. If you’re a participant in this world, then life happens to you for the most part. You can do what you want to set yourself up for success, but there are zero guarantees that a giant bus isn’t going to mow you down in the street tomorrow. Zero.
BUT (trust me I’m not going all dark on you here)
There are a few areas of life where you are 100% in the driver’s seat. You control, you decide. Ironically, these areas are incredibly powerful and have an enormous impact on all the other things you CAN’T control. They can influence the uncontrollable things that happen in your life so that they are in your favor (or not).
And you want to know what those areas, right?
- Your breath
- Your perspective on the world
- Your perception of yourself
- Your physical fitness
- Your diet
Now I know it may seem like even these things can feel out of your control, especially diet and exercise, but 90% of the time – they totally are.
- You choose what you put in your mouth
- You choose who much you move (unless you’re completely incapacitated)
- You choose how you feel about yourself
- You choose how you feel about the world and your lot in life.
- You can be grateful or not.
- You can be active or not.
- You can choose healthy foods or not.
- You can choose to love yourself and believe you can do what you set your mind too… or not.
The rest of life including how long your job will last to how faithful your partner will be is largely up to fate and circumstance. Trust is good, but at the end of the day, life will eventually pull the carpet out from underneath you in some way. It happens to every single one of us. No one gets out of this life completely unscathed.
Ironically, the things you can control – how you eat, move, think and what you focus on (hello, gratitude) will have a dramatic impact on how you endure life’s curve balls. If you’re managing what you can control, you’ll be able to manage what you can’t control way better. If you’re not managing what you can control, chances are you’re generally feeling out of control, most of the time.
Can you relate?
So if you are feeling out of control. If you feel like life is overwhelming and you can’t decide which way is up…
…take a step back
….take a deep breath
……and take stock of what you can control at the moment.
……..then trust that the rest of it will work itself out for the best.
It always tends to do that in time.